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  • Developmental Needs & Tasks for Sassy Pants Readers!



    When can I buy the book? Right now!

    Where can I buy it?      on Amazon. (click on Amazon)

    We will also have “BUY” button here SOON on my blog and the Summers Island Website.

    And now I’d also like to share a helpful piece about the development of young children. As moms (and as grandparents) we often wonder if we are doing the right things or if we are creating problems for them farther along in life.

    A friend of mine, Dr. James Wilder has written a manual that describes what is going on at each developmental stage of life. I thought the following chart brilliant–so very helpful.

    The needs of children aged 4 to 12 are:  (This part we help them with.)

    • They need to be weaned of being a baby—having all their needs anticipated and met for them
    • They need help doing what they don’t feel like doing
    • Authentic help sorting feelings, imaginations and realities
    • Feedback on guesses, attempts and failures
    • Love they do not need to earn
    • Be taught the family history
    • Be taught the big picture of their lives

    The developmental tasks for this age are: (This part they have to work at and learn. Yes, adults need to encourage them and compliment them when they make progress but we cannot do it for them.)

    • Learn to take care of self
    • Learn to ask for what they need
    • Learn self-expression
    • Develop personal resources and talents
    • Learn to make him/herself understandable to others
    • Learn to do hard things
    • Tame their cravings
    • Learn what satisfies
    • Learn to see him/herself through the “eyes of heaven”—see their potential


    Excerpted from The Complete Guide to Living With Men by E. James Wilder III, Shepherd’s House Inc., Pasadena, CA, 2004, pp. 56-90.

    Shedding some light… Carol A. Brown

  • Meet Jill Richardson

    Richardson is our featured John 3:
    author today. She has a lovely excerpt with questions to help us learn from Gollom! Enjoy.

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    and the Spiritual World of Middle-Earth

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    Hobbits, elves, and dragons have
    become common fantasy characters but do they have more relevance to your life
    than you think? Are they as real as, or the same as, people you meet every day?
    Maybe not literally, but J.R.R. Tolkien’s famous characters bring to life real
    character qualities we all can learn from, whether good or bad. What can the
    bravery of a hobbit, the faith of a elf, or the greed of a dragon teach teens
    about themselves? How can their stories lead us to the real Kingdom where God is
    working out way more than a fantasy for his people? Dig in to these familiar
    characters and relevant Bible passages to find out. Come out understanding how
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    Meet the Author:

    Jill’s love for hobbits and elves comes from her time
    as a literature teacher and as a
    lifelong reader of great stories. She also loves an epic challenge and a chance
    for grace wherever they exist. Jill has a BA in English and Education and an
    MDiv in theology and is an ordained minister who has served as a worship,
    preaching, and discipleship pastor. She has published four books previously, as
    well as articles in national magazines such as FamilyFun, Discipleship Journal,
    and Today’s Christian Woman.
    Jill enjoys speaking on a variety of topics and has
    been very active on the MOPS circuit, as well as in junior high and high school
    classes. She enjoys speaking for retreats for all ages.
    With three daughters, three cats, and (thankfully!) only one husband,
    she keeps busy otherwise with community theater, gardening, reading,
    scrapbooking, and traveling. Jill loves oceans, cats, chocolate, teenagers, her
    family, the Cubs, and God, not necessarily in that order.

    From December 1 through December 16,
    the John 3:16 Marketing Network is hosting a Christmas Book Launch and Hobbits,
    You, and the Spiritual World
    is a featured book. As part of the event, the
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    Excerpt: Chapter


    Part 2
    Then the mother of Zebedee’s sons came to
    Jesus with her sons and, kneeling down, asked a favor of him.
    “What is it you want?” he asked.
    She said, “Grant that one of these two sons
    of mine may sit at your right and the other at your left in your kingdom.”
    “You don’t know what you are asking,” Jesus
    said to them.
    “Can you drink the cup I am going to drink?”
    “We can,” they answered.
    Jesus said to them,“You will indeed drink
    from my cup, but to sit at my right or left is not for me to grant. These
    places belong to those for whom they have been prepared by my Father.”
    When the ten heard about this, they were
    indignant with the two brothers. Jesus called them together and said, “You know
    that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials
    exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become
    great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be
    your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and
    to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20.20-28).
    What does
    James’ and John’s mom want? Why do you think she wants it? Do James and John
    agree with this request? How do you know?
    Why are the
    other disciples mad when they hear about this?
    How does
    Jesus say people in power usually act? Why do you think they act like this?
    Are you ever
    tempted to let people “see” that you’re a leader? Do you ever want to show off
    some position you have? Why? How does it make you feel?
    How do
    servants and slaves act? What is their job? What do you suppose they typically
    do in a day? 
Church people have created a name for the kind of leader
    Church people have created a name for the
    kind of leader Jesus is talking about here: a servant leader. What exactly is
    that? Well, it’s what He says: someone “in charge” who chooses not to act like
    an overbearing jerk but instead asks other people, “How
    can I help
    you?” “How can I make your job better?” “How can I
    make sure
    you get credit for a job well done?”
    That’s the opposite of how we think. We think
    we have to make ourselves look good. We think if we don’t make it clear who’s
    in charge, no one will give us the credit we deserve. We think like the other
    ten disciples: “Hey! Who do James and John think they are to try to get top
    Do you know that Jesus, who, let’s face it,
    clearly has that top spot by a landslide, told His disciples they would do
    greater things than He did? He didn’t even try to keep all the glory to
    himself. He wanted it shared around. He wanted those who He taught to be able
    to shine brighter than He did. Why? Because the “big picture” mattered a lot
    more to Him than who got the credit. The point was to make sure as many people
    as possible heard about being saved and living for God. Jesus didn’t care who
    got the credit for that happening!
    Gandalf knows that the big picture matters
    more than anything. Yes, the smaller picture of returning the Lonely Mountain
    to its rightful owners has to happen first. The reason, though, is that it’s
    part of the giant picture of returning all of Middle Earth to its rightful
    goodness. The dwarves’ adventure is part of the story, but it’s not the story.
    Individual glory has to take second place. (Thorin and Boromir never quite
    grasped that… and they died. A lesson to be learned there, I think.)
    The best way to make any “big picture” plan
    happen, as both Gandalf and Jesus know, is to equip and encourage as many
    people as possible to do the job well, not to boss people around and always be
    in charge. Sometimes, we need to step out of the way and let other people do
    it. That might even mean being happy when someone else becomes the hero in the
    If you were in charge of a group, what would
    you do to act like a servant? How do you think it would work?
    Write down a place where you are a leader,
    whether it’s in an official position of leadership or as a role model to
    someone. List some things you can do to become more like Jesus tells us to be
    and less like everyone expects us to be.
    Bonus Question:
    What do you think it would look like if world leaders tried this radical idea?

    Words to remember
    “. . . not lording it over those entrusted to you, but
    being examples to the flock.”
    (1 Peter 5:3)

    Hope you are finding good reading for yourself and those on your gift list!

    Blessings, Carol